The Betrayal (Break Up Blog #1)

You walk around feeling like your body is full of shards of glass. Some of the shards have already penetrated vital organs... like the heart, the stomach, the brain. You move slowly and with caution, afraid that any slip in your attention will allow the shards to penetrate deeper or that the shards will move and force new penetrations to occur.
It's impossible to believe that people are walking around in the world without a body full of shards of glass. That they are without a constant gut-wrenching ache that permeates every experience, that NEVER leaves, that has to be constantly monitored to keep your mind and body from being minced into hamburger.
People offer platitudes, attempts at support that really are not helpful. Things like:
You're better off without that person
You'll move beyond this some day
Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger
God doesn't give us more than we can handle
It'll get better, just give it time
What they should be saying is, "Jesus, this is so fucking shitty. Come over and hang with me. I'll make up an extra bed for you, stay as long as you like, as often as you like. Here's a spare key. Have you eaten? Let me make you dinner."

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